Last week I went to a concert. When I got to the venue, there was a long line from the entrance of the building all the way down the street and around the corner. After waiting near the back of the line for about 20 minutes, the line began to move.
A teen standing ahead me with her friends noticed that there were other gates near the entrance. She pointed them out to her friends and said ‘look, we should switch lines, there’s hardly anyone else in those other lines.’ She was quickly dismissed by her friends who said, ‘no, we should wait our turn.’ Another person told her, ‘it’s probably a trick.’ After another minute she spoke up again about how much faster the other lines were moving but the rest of her group overruled her suggestion and decided to stay put. I paid attention to what the teen said and switched lines. I made it inside the venue in a few minutes instead of additional 20.
Watching the exchange between the girl and her friends made me think of all the times when I’ve seen opportunities to move ahead but didn’t take action. Like this teenager, I wanted someone to give me permission, to validate my choices and decisions. When that didn’t happen, I waited. And waited. At the time, I was literally waiting for my rescue, someone, anyone, to swoop in and change my life for me. When that didn’t happen, I began assigning blame to others for my unhappiness.
I share this to acknowledge that as you pursue your goals one of the hardest challenges is feeling like you’re alone or not supported. Sometimes you don’t get validation from your friends, family members, or even people you admire. It took me years to realize that that is okay. Your Dream, your Divine Vision, is yours, not theirs. That’s why they don’t understand it, why they naysay it or mock it. It’s not their responsibility to nurture it or care for it, that’s up to you.
I started taking responsibility for my own happiness by putting in effort to make my dreams a reality. Once I started taking action, many people began showing up in my life that have helped me move forward in incredible ways. I got my rescue after all! There are still moments where I feel terrified and I look for support and validation as I take more steps outside of my comfort zone. The difference is that now I surround myself with people and a professional coach who are truly able to provide the support I need.
Where in your life are you waiting (and waiting) for a rescue? What step will you take today to nuture your dreams?